New Job

My one and only job is to take care of myself and kick cancer's ass. I need to repeat this to myself multiple times a day and listen to my friends remind me about it too. You see, taking care of myself does not come naturally for me. In fact, it's a real struggle. My therapist asked me if I have always had trouble doing this and honestly I think that I have. Even as a child, I found myself looking out for my siblings and taking care of them. As an adult, I've gotten even worse. While I was married it was difficult to even think about taking care of myself because Gess's health required so much of my attention and energy. Even when things weren't that bad, I worried about when they would get bad again. I remember Gess trying to force me to relax by drawing me a bath, lighting some candles, and locking me in the bathroom! I know that my stress levels are unhealthy and that I need to address them, but for some reason it is so difficult for me to actually accomplish this.

Since Gessner died I haven't worked much--just a few cases and teaching a business law class. Since being diagnosed with cancer, I haven't done any official work. And it is driving me crazy! I am so used to doing, doing, doing, and the idea of resting makes me feel like a failure. I know that this is an issue that I am going to have to deal with--getting cancer does not make me a failure--but this is one of those times when my mind and my heart are not necessarily in agreement. So I have to trust the "experts" and my friends and focus on caring for myself right now. In that vein, I am writing a job description for my current job:

Lisa's Job Description:

• Get enough sleep. Take naps if necessary.
• Stay hydrated, drink lots of water.
• Ask for help when I need it. Accept help when it is offered.
• Say no.
• Go to my appointments, but be mindful of over scheduling and only schedule what is necessary or enjoyable.
• Laugh. Often.
• Spend time with friends.
• Cut out toxic people.
• Move every day, but be careful not to over do it.
• Remember to eat and eat for health.
• Cry when I need to cry.
• Get outside a little everyday.
• Snuggle with Beauty.
• Spend time each day meditating.
• Get massages.
• Craft whenever possible.
• Take my vitamins.
• Stay on top of my side effects--being "strong" doesn't mean suffering.
• Listen to my body.
• Do what feels right.
• Delegate, delegate, delegate.
• Revise job description as necessary.

This job may just be more challenging than any I've had in the past, but my health (and sanity) depend on me doing it well. So, here's to self-care!